Waiting to be matched with a surrogate can be one of the more emotional parts of the surrogacy process. Intended parents have 
already made a big decision, completed paperwork, and taken important steps toward growing their family. Then comes the waiting.
It can sometimes feel like everything is on hold, but there are actually several meaningful things intended parents can do during this time. Staying prepared, informed, and emotionally grounded can make the waiting period feel more productive and help you feel ready when the right match comes along.
Learn More About the Surrogacy Process
Even if you have already done plenty of research, the waiting period is a great time to become even more familiar with what comes next.
You can learn more about the matching process, medical screening, legal agreements, embryo transfer, pregnancy milestones, hospital planning, and postpartum expectations. Understanding the stages ahead can make the process feel less overwhelming once things begin moving.
It can also help you think through questions you may want to ask the Shared Conception team, your attorney, fertility clinic, or future surrogate.
Think About What Matters Most in a Match
A successful match is about more than simply finding someone who is medically qualified to become a surrogate.
Compatibility, communication style, expectations, location, views on the pregnancy, and the type of relationship each person hopes to have can all be important.
While you are waiting, take some time to think about your priorities. Do you hope to communicate frequently throughout the pregnancy? Would you like to attend appointments whenever possible? What kind of relationship would you ideally like to have with your surrogate before, during, and after the pregnancy?
Knowing what feels important to you can help make future conversations with potential surrogates more comfortable.
Prepare for Future Expenses and Logistics
Surrogacy includes many moving parts, so the waiting period can be a good opportunity to review your budget and prepare for upcoming expenses.
You may also want to think ahead about travel, time away from work, childcare for other children, accommodations near the hospital, and other practical details that could come up later in the process.
You do not have to have every detail figured out, but thinking through different possibilities now may make future stages feel less stressful.
Keep Communication Open with Your Surrogacy Team
If you have questions while you are waiting, ask them. We can help you understand where you are in the process, what to expect next, and whether there is anything else you can do to prepare.
Keeping communication open can also help you feel more connected to the process, even when there are no major updates to share.
Use the Waiting Period to Prepare for What Comes Next
Waiting for a surrogate match may not be the most exciting part of the process, but it is still an important one.
It gives intended parents time to learn, prepare, reflect, and make sure they are ready for the next stage. When the right match is found, things can begin moving quickly, and having a strong foundation can make that transition much smoother.
At Shared Conception, we understand that waiting can bring a lot of questions and emotions. Our team is here to guide intended parents through every stage of the process, including the moments when it may feel like not much is happening.
If you are considering surrogacy, contact Shared Conception to learn more about how we can support you. You can contact us by call (713) 622-1144.
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