What to Expect During Labor and Delivery as a Surrogate

As a surrogate, labor and delivery can be a unique experience, as it involves not only your own health and well-being but also the expectations of the intended parents. While the physical process of childbirth is the same as any pregnancy, there are key differences in how hospitals handle surrogacy births, how birth plans are created, and what recovery looks like for surrogates. Understanding what to expect can help ensure a great experience for everyone involved.

Hospital Protocols for Surrogacy Births

Hospitals follow specific procedures when it comes to surrogacy deliveries, and it’s important to discuss these protocols with your healthcare team in advance. Many hospitals require additional documentation, such as the surrogacy agreement and parentage documents, to ensure a smooth transition of care after birth.

Some hospitals also have policies regarding who is allowed in the delivery room. Typically, the intended parents are present if agreed upon beforehand, and a “surrogacy-friendly” hospital will often provide separate rooms—one for you as the surrogate and another for the baby and the intended parents.

Creating a Birth Plan as a Surrogate

A well-thought-out birth plan is necessary in a surrogacy arrangement. This plan should include:

• Who will be present in the delivery room (intended parents, a support person, or a doula).
• Pain management preferences, such as an epidural or natural delivery.
• Immediate post-birth care, including whether the intended parents will have immediate skin-to-skin contact with the baby.
• Hospital accommodations ensure there is a plan for both your comfort and the intended parents’ needs.

It’s important to discuss the birth plan with the intended parents, your doctor, and the hospital staff ahead of time to avoid any confusion on the big day.

Recovery and Post-Birth Care for Surrogates

Unlike traditional births, surrogates do not take a baby home, which makes postpartum recovery different in some ways. However, your body still goes through the same healing process.

• Physical Recovery: Rest is crucial. Follow your doctor’s instructions on postpartum care, including incision care (if you had a C-section), hydration, and nutrition.
• Hormonal Adjustments: Your body will still experience postpartum hormonal shifts, which can affect mood, energy levels, and physical healing. Be mindful of your body’s needs during this time.
• Postpartum Check-ups: Attend all scheduled postpartum visits to ensure proper healing and to address any concerns with your doctor.

Labor and delivery as a surrogate are deeply rewarding and require careful planning to ensure a positive experience for everyone involved. If you have any questions at all, we are here for you at Shared Conception. We look forward to going through this journey with you. You can call us at 713-622-1144 or visit https://sharedconception.com/contact.