Surrogacy and Social Media: Setting Boundaries on What To Share

Social media has become such a natural part of our lives that it’s easy to forget how much of ourselves we share online. From pregnancy announcements to bump photos and baby milestones, it can feel natural to want to share every part of a surrogacy journey, too. But when it comes to surrogacy, the experience is shared in more ways than one, and setting boundaries around what you post is one of the most thoughtful things you can do for yourself and the intended parents.

Every surrogacy journey is unique. Some intended parents are very open and even encourage updates, while others prefer privacy and may not want details shared publicly. Before posting anything, it’s important to have an honest conversation about what everyone feels comfortable with. Things like ultrasound photos, baby names, or even the due date can be sensitive information. A quick check-in before posting can prevent misunderstandings and keep everyone feeling respected.

For surrogates, social media can also be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it’s an amazing source of encouragement and community. There are countless other surrogates out there who understand the experience and can offer advice, empathy, and laughter when you need it most. On the other hand, oversharing can invite unwanted opinions or questions from people who don’t understand surrogacy, and that can be emotionally draining.

Setting clear boundaries helps protect your mental well-being and keeps the focus where it belongs: on the positive, life-changing impact of your journey. Maybe you decide to share updates privately in a small circle or wait until after delivery to post anything. Whatever you choose, it should make you feel comfortable and aligned with your values.

At the end of the day, sharing your story is a personal choice. Just remember it’s okay to keep parts of your journey private. You can celebrate this incredible experience while still preserving the sacredness of the bond between you, the intended parents, and the baby you’re helping bring into the world.

If you ever have any questions about becoming a surrogate mother, please contact us at Shared Conception by calling (713) 622-1144.