This is one of the most common questions we get from potential surrogates—and it makes total sense! You’re taking care of your body and someone else’s future little one, so it’s natural to wonder what’s safe and what’s not. The good news? In many cases, yes—sex during pregnancy is perfectly okay for surrogates. But like 
most things in the world of surrogacy, there are a few important guidelines to keep in mind.
Timing Matters
First things first: if you’ve recently undergone (or are about to undergo) an embryo transfer, it’s important to take it easy. We generally advise skipping intercourse both before and after the transfer to give that precious embryo the best chance to implant and settle in comfortably. Your fertility clinic will give you specific guidelines.
For Surrogates in Relationships
If you’re in a committed relationship—married or not—you and your partner will go through routine screening for sexually transmitted infections (STIs) early in the process. Once you’ve both tested negative and everything’s going smoothly with the pregnancy, intimacy is typically just fine unless your doctor says otherwise.
What About Single Surrogates?
Great question! If you’re a single surrogate, your contract might spell out some specifics—but if not, the golden rule is to keep things monogamous and safe. The main concern is protecting both you and the baby. So, if you’re seeing someone, make sure they’ve been tested and are infection-free.
When Complications Arise
Pregnancy isn’t always predictable. If any complications come up—like spotting, cramping, or other concerns—your doctor may recommend pressing pause on intercourse. Your care team will always guide you based on what’s best for your health and the baby, so don’t hesitate to ask them questions. No topic is off-limits—we promise.
Let’s Talk the Benefits
Believe it or not, there can actually be some perks to sex during pregnancy:
- It’s a workout. Sex can help keep your body strong and flexible, which can actually make labor and delivery easier.
- It may help reduce blood pressure. That glow isn’t just from good lighting—staying sexually active can help regulate blood pressure and reduce the risk of preeclampsia.
- Better sleep. Struggling to get some ZZZs? A little intimacy may help you relax and snooze more soundly.
Every surrogacy journey is unique, and your comfort, safety, and health are always the top priority. If you ever have questions—whether big, small, or a little awkward—we’re here to talk it through. Being a surrogate is an incredible act of love, and you deserve all the support along the way. Shared Conception is committed to our surrogates throughout their entire journey! Interested in becoming a surrogate, have questions, or just want to get more information? Give us a call today at (713) 622-1144.
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