How to Know if Intended Parents and Surrogate Are a Good Match

In the surrogacy journey, one of the most important steps is finding the right match between surrogates and intended parents. A successful surrogacy experience relies heavily on compatibility, shared values, and mutual understanding between both parties. But how do you know if you’re a good match?

1. Shared Values and Expectations

The first step in determining if a surrogate and intended parents are a good match is to ensure that both parties have similar values and expectations for the surrogacy journey. This includes discussing major topics like the pregnancy experience, communication style, and important decisions related to the baby. For example, intended parents may have specific preferences about the birthing plan, while surrogates might want to understand their role after the baby is born. Open, honest discussions from the very beginning help ensure that everyone is on the same page.

2. Legal Considerations

Surrogacy laws vary from state to state and country to country, so it’s crucial to ensure that both the surrogate and intended parents are in legal alignment. This may include discussing legal requirements, compensation, parental rights, and more. It’s always a good idea to work with a surrogacy agency, such as Shared Conception, and legal professionals who specialize in reproductive law to ensure everything is in order. Knowing that both sides agree to and understand the legal aspects of the arrangement is essential for a positive experience.

3. Emotional Readiness

Both surrogates and intended parents must be emotionally prepared for the surrogacy journey, which can be intense, exciting, and emotional. Surrogates need to be comfortable with the idea of carrying a baby for someone else, while intended parents must be ready to trust their surrogate and respect her boundaries. Ensuring both parties are emotionally ready for this shared journey helps foster a healthy relationship built on mutual respect and understanding.

4. Communication Style

Open, clear, and ongoing communication is critical in any surrogacy relationship. Both parties should be comfortable discussing sensitive topics, sharing updates throughout the pregnancy, and expressing their feelings. When surrogates and intended parents have similar communication styles, they can develop a strong bond, which makes the entire experience smoother and more enjoyable. Before beginning the process, it’s important to agree on how often and through what channels (phone, text, email, etc.) everyone will communicate.

5. Agency Support and Compatibility

Many surrogates and intended parents choose to work with a surrogacy agency, which can facilitate the matching process. Shared Conception uses detailed profiles and questionnaires to match individuals who share similar values, expectations, and communication styles. Working with us can provide reassurance that you’ll be matched with someone who’s the right fit for you.

6. Trust and Respect

One of the most important aspects of any surrogate-intended parent relationship is trust. Both parties should feel respected and valued, knowing that their contributions to the surrogacy process are equally important. Surrogates need to feel supported and appreciated for the incredible gift they’re giving, while intended parents should feel confident that their surrogate will do her best to ensure a healthy pregnancy.

Finding the right match between surrogates and intended parents is an important part of a successful and rewarding surrogacy experience. Trust Shared Conception to help you. Shared Conception’s objective is for the surrogate and intended parents to interact in an extraordinarily comfortable environment and for both parties to build a good rapport and partnership. That said, we strive to pinpoint your core beliefs and innate desires that align with the intended parents so that you are mentally comfortable throughout the pregnancy.

Once Shared Conception accepts you into our surrogate mother program, we will expertly determine which couples to present to you based on the criteria you expressed to us during the screening process and the preferences the couples have shared with us. This timeline could either be quick or it could take some time, as we are looking for someone whose needs, expectations, and views are similar to yours.

If you are comfortable with the intended parents we present to you, we will immediately contact them. If they, too, are interested in moving forward, Shared Conception will coordinate a Zoom meet and greet between the intended parents, surrogate, and a member of our team so you can see how you connect with each other. It’s also a great time to ask questions about the partnership and expectations. After the call, if all parties agree to move forward, then we get started on your journey.

If you are interested in becoming a surrogate mother and want to know more about this process, please fill out our form at https://deliveradream.com today.