As a surrogate, the delivery day is exciting. You have spent months caring for the pregnancy, building trust 
with the intended parents, and preparing for this moment. Knowing what to expect during delivery and the days that follow can help you feel more confident, supported, and at ease as you reach the finish line.
During Delivery
Every delivery experience is different, but most surrogates already have a birth plan created in advance with their medical team and the intended parents. This plan usually outlines preferences for labor, pain management, who will be present in the delivery room, and how the first moments after birth will be handled.
In many cases, intended parents are present during labor or delivery, depending on everyone’s comfort level and hospital policies. Some surrogates prefer the intended parents to be in the room, while others feel more comfortable having them nearby and joining shortly after birth. There is no right or wrong choice. What matters most is that expectations are discussed clearly ahead of time.
Once the baby is born, the medical team will follow the agreed-upon plan. This often means the baby is placed with the intended parents shortly after delivery. Many surrogates describe this moment as incredibly fulfilling, knowing they have helped create a family.
Immediately After Birth
After delivery, your focus shifts to recovery, just like any other birth. Hospital staff will monitor your physical healing, manage pain, and ensure you are comfortable. You may stay in a separate recovery room, or in some cases, in the same room depending on hospital arrangements.
Feelings of relief, pride, joy, and even a sense of quiet adjustment are all normal.
The Post-Birth Weeks
Once you return home, your body continues to heal. Follow-up medical appointments, rest, hydration, and gentle self-care are important. Some surrogates choose to pump breast milk for the baby if that was part of the agreement, while others focus solely on recovery.
Being a surrogate does not end at delivery. It concludes with recovery, reflection, and joy in the role you played. You carried hope, trust, and love, and that impact lasts far beyond the hospital room. If you are interested in becoming a surrogate mother, please visit https://sharedconception.com/surrogates/surrogate-mother-program.
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