Finding Intended Parents with Shared Conception is the first step to having the perfect match and the best surrogacy experience possible. After you complete your surrogacy profile, Shared Conception will find potential Intended Parents for you to meet. The next step is the initial conversation, usually done over the phone or via Skype. For many surrogates, this initial conversation may give you that gut feeling that you want when finding the perfect match for you.But, what do you ask a potential Intended Parent? You want to find a connection before getting into the personal details and hard to ask questions such as, “how do you feel about selective reduction?”. Below is a list of questions that may help guide you in conversation with possible Intended Parents.
- What brought you to pursue surrogacy?
- What clinic you want to use?
- When do you hope to start the surrogacy process?
- How many transfers will you attempt to achieve a pregnancy? Do you have frozen embryos or are you doing a retrieval first?
- What will you ask of me during the pregnancy? Any food/diet/religious restrictions?
- What are you most looking forward to about being parents?
- What type of contact do you want to have after delivery?
- How many embryos do you intend to transfer?
- Do you have support from friends and family?
- Do you plan to be open about the process with those close to you?
- What would you do if the baby was diagnosed with a medical condition during pregnancy (terminate or continue the pregnancy?)
- What would you do if you got pregnant with three or more babies (selectively reduce or carry)?
- What type of contact do you want during the pregnancy? Do you prefer calls, email, text, etc.?
Make sure you are prepared to answer questions about your views and opinions on the surrogacy process as well. Remember, you choose Intended Parents as much as they choose you. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t choose them. And always go with your gut.