Mother’s Day is a nationally recognized and globally celebrated holiday which focuses on celebrating mothers and motherhood. It also celebrates maternal bonds and the significant impact that mothers have in our world. This year the holiday falls on May 14th in the U.S. so it is quickly approaching. With Mother's Day celebrations and sentiments in the air, we, here at our surrogacy agency, Shared Conception, pause to wonder “how is Mother’s Day addressed in surrogacy situations?”
When a surrogate mother is pregnant, her friends and family are sure to know that the child she is carrying is not her own and that the child will live with the intended family as soon as it is born. So are they expected to extend the same holiday greetings to her? When it comes to the intended parents, what is the general consensus about their celebration of the holiday? Do people feel the need to wish the intended mother a Happy Mother’s Day since she is expecting? Do the intended parents acknowledge the day by sending a gift to the woman that is carrying their child?
Then, one wonders how most surrogate mothers feel about the holiday after they have already given birth and the child is with their intended families. Although it would certainly be nice to hear from the intended families on that day, there is also the realization that the children that you carried for them is literally their child and so you shouldn't expect anything on Mother’s Day. However, is this the general consensus? Do other surrogate mother’s feel the same way or are there those who actually wish to hear from their intended families on Mother’s Day?
Being a surrogate mother is definitely an act of sacrifice , just as a traditional pregnancy is. Physically and emotionally you experience much of the same things. So should there be some formal recognition of the surrogate mother’s actions on a continued basis? Or is it best to avoid establishing the surrogate mother as playing the mother role in any way? What do you think? If you are or have been a surrogate mother, do you expect to hear from your intended family on Mother’s Day? Let us know your thoughts on the topic. Shared Conception would love to hear from you! Happy Mother's Day!
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