As our surrogacy agency, Shared Conception, journeys through the
surrogacy process with our families and surrogates, we thought it neat to share
a different perspective of the birth. These observations comes from a friend of the surrogate mother
immediately after she has given birth to twins and those babies are in a
neighboring room with their delighted parents.
“Well it was a Wednesday morning and Amanda and I were
texting madly to each other. It was the day she was going in to have the dreaded
c-section. The baby girl refused to cooperate and there was no other option.
After quite a few hours of anxious waiting, I finally got a text from Amanda –
the babies were here. She was texting back and forth to me and I said to
another friend “there is no way she is going to remember all of
this”, and sure enough she hadn’t. We had a good few laughs over the next
few weeks in remembering the texts.
I went in that night to visit her. I couldn’t believe she
wanted me to come in – I didn’t want to see anyone after my c-sections. She
waited until we were alone in the room and she said “people asked me if I
would find it hard to give up the babies, and I haven’t felt it hard at all –
is that normal?” I knew she was still rather drugged out from all of
medicines she was given, and reminded her that from day one she had made it
clear in her mind that they were not her babies and biologically they were not
hers. She seemed somewhat at ease, but that was the first time I had seen any
concern from her regarding that.
I got to see the babies briefly as I was walking into Amanda’s
room. There was a busy procession of people heading into a room nearby. I
recognized Rose and Tim from a photo Amanda had shown me. I had never met them
as they lived in another state where surrogacy is not recognized.
As I sat and chatted to Amanda, it just seemed so surreal that
here she was recovering from a major operation and pretty much right next door
was a brand new family relishing their new gifts of life that she had carried.
It was a nice interruption when Rose popped in to check on her. The friendship
and love that had blossomed between them was so evident in those few minutes, I
had to hold back the tears.”
As these experiences unfold, Shared Conception is right there to compassionately and competently
guide both the surrogate mom and the intended parents as they move through the
various stages of the birth, including the birth and immediately afterwards.
Contact us, we can help.