One of the first questions that arise when someone finds out you are a surrogate is, “How much do you get paid?” This question can be downright insulting, but it’s just plain curiosity and some people just can’t help themselves. All surrogates do not get paid to have someone else’s baby. It’s not a buying and selling market, like if you wanted a new pet. You are essentially helping to create a person’s child, a tiny human being that they themselves could not physically carry. A surrogate creates families. We enjoy the emotional fulfillment and the ability to give something back because we are capable. We do get compensated for pain and suffering (which let me tell you…there is plenty of), however, that compensation equals to about the same as working a part-time job.
Many have the backward assumption that surrogates get so much money that their debts are paid off, free mommy makeovers, a platinum card, a new car and endless lavish gifts from intended parents (who must be millionaires). This is rarely the case. The surrogate compensation has helped put surrogates and their family’s in a better financial position. Some have gone back to school; put a down payment on a home; it can help a stay-at-home mom set realistic goals and even….stay at home. It has helped pay off family debt and outstanding medical bills.
The truth is, it’s expensive to conceive a child if it’s not done the old-fashioned way. Most people who come to the decision that they need a surrogate are already financially strapped. They have probably gone through tens of thousands of dollars already for fertility treatments. Just because someone wants their own baby using modern technology doesn’t mean they are wealthy. This is why Shared Conception is so helpful, we know all of this, we deal with all the finances. This is a small part of why we do not recommend going about a journey without an agency.
Having experienced professionals that know the ropes and have gone through every possible scenario is invaluable. Someone in your corner to fight for you and make sure things come out all right can make a huge difference. Call us today!