Telling co-workers about your surrogacy can be stressful. After all, it is a very personal choice. But a blossoming belly cannot be unseen. Although this conversation may seem overwhelming, you have time to decide when to share and how to explain your situation.
If you have an open relationship with your boss, team or coworkers and feel as though the news would be celebrated, then sharing the news of your surrogacy will seem easy. Take advantage of this by educating others on the benefits and process of the amazing journey you are about to embark on. Even let others take the ride with you! Any additional positive support is never a bad thing. You will not have to worry about making excuses for your absence from the office for the transfer, weekly doctor’s appointments and the days you are not feeling your best in your first trimester.
If you do not feel comfortable sharing with others until much later in the process, you have plenty of time. Deciding to wait until a positive pregnancy test or even until the end of the first trimester allows you to keep your secret a bit longer in the upsetting event of an early miscarriage. Always know that you are not required to tell your boss the reason you are missing work for medically related absences.
There is no right or wrong time to bring up this delicate conversation. The ball is in your court and time is on your side. Open communication may not be the most comfortable option but is the easiest way to ensure a stress-free work environment which allows your coworkers the opportunity to ask questions and grasp an understanding of your very important and special journey. Call us at Shared Conception, we are effective, efficient and promise to share lots of successful tips and advice!