Becoming pregnant is a big deal. When pregnancy is achieved through surrogacy it can be an even bigger deal. Despite your unique conception story, you now get to make the first tough decision of the pregnancy; when to tell your friends that someone else is carrying your child! Here’s a look at when many intended parents choose to share their good news.
Some intended parents feel that sharing the news of a positive pregnancy test early on allows friends and family to share in that initial excitement that they’re experiencing. It can be hard to keep such happy news a secret, especially when the road to pregnancy for most parents via surrogacy has been such a long one. Sharing your news early also entitles you to support early on and perhaps even a bit of empathy over those new emotions and stresses that may be taking a toll on your life already.
Close of the First Trimester
Another common time to share news is at the close of the first trimester. Many intended parents wait until the 12th week of pregnancy as the rate of miscarriage drops dramatically from this point on. Parents in this category generally feel as though withholding the news of a pregnancy until it appears to be very viable enables them a safety net in the unfortunate event of a first trimester miscarriage. Additionally, many parents to be wait until late first trimester genetic tests have been done to share their news. This option allows for some time to keep the news just between yourself and sharing your news with friends and family.
Finally, some parents choose to wait to share the news of their pregnancy until late in the third trimester, or even until after the birth. This choice is generally made by parents who are not wanting to face criticism or unsolicited advice during the pregnancy process. A late reveal is an option uniquely available to parents of surrogacy, as a third trimester belly is very hard to hide!
What is important to remember is that there is no singular “right” time for sharing your big news. The right time for one parent may not be ideal at all for another. This announcement is just the first of many new decisions that you’ll need to make from the heart. Let Shared Conception play an integral role in building your family.