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During the surrogacy process, it’s important to educate your children on the subject as well. After all, they deserve to be a part of the journey as well. So you must begin the wholesome journey as a family by explaining surrogacy to your children.

We commend your reasons for becoming a surrogate. It’s true that there are few acts as selfless and compassionate as the act of becoming a surrogate. It is a rewarding and life-altering decision, but it’s not easy for everyone to accept, especially children.

Children can have varying reactions to the prospect of surrogacy. But who can blame them for wondering why their mom won’t bring home their new sibling?

To prevent your kids from feeling disheartened, you have to help them understand that the baby is only a guest, like a distant cousin or aunt staying over during the holidays. Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to distance your kids from the process altogether. You can tell them that once the baby arrives, you and your kids will gift the bundle of joy to a family who needs it the most. When you treat the baby as a gift that’s meant for someone else, your children will feel excited about the prospect of gifting a baby to a couple that isn’t blessed with children.

Many surrogacy agencies in Texas will also confirm with the surrogate applicants if they have taken this decision with the consent of their families. Conception through surrogacy can be a new and unfamiliar concept for a surrogate’s family. Luckily, there are ways to introduce your kids to the concept.

Process of Surrogate Pregnancy- How to explain it to Your Kids

The sooner you start discussing surrogacy with your children, the more accepting they will become of it. But we recommend approaching the subject carefully and being positive when discussing it.

Nowadays, you can find plenty of children’s books on new concepts. You can even practice family-building techniques. Here are a few ideas to help you introduce surrogate pregnancy to your children.

1.      Book Resources

Fill your children’s library with a host of books on surrogacy. Make sure they’re all kid-friendly and, most importantly, easy enough to understand at their level. These books include colorful illustrations, and reading them is a great family activity. Similarly, trying family-building approaches toward surrogacy will help your family accept the process while strengthening your bond at the same time.

These book resources help normalize surrogacy and explain to children how the baby will go to people who can’t have children. From here, the book will explain how many families can’t conceive naturally, so as a surrogate, you’re making their dream come true.

2.      Introduce Your Children to the Intended Parents

It’s important to ensure that your children feel involved in your decision to become a surrogate. This can start with having them meet the intended parents.

In fact, it would be a great idea to have the intended parents bond with your children. It’s a great opportunity for your kids to bond with the family and understand where the surrogate baby will go.

When you tell your children about what a blessing children are for parents, they will become empathetic towards intended parents who can’t conceive a child on their own. This will drive compassion in your kids. They’ll become more understanding and supportive when they understand what others may be going through.

3.      Make Surrogacy a Concept for Activities

You could involve your children in a range of creative activities, like drawing and painting about surrogacy. You can build your children’s creativity by getting them to draw happy scenes of when the new baby will be with its intended parents.

Talk to them about the joy intended parents feel, just as you felt when your kids were born. Make them draw pictures of it, and use colors, to portray imagination. You could even ask your children to prepare a special storybook for the surrogate-born baby and gift it to the intended parents.

You could have them take pictures to add to the family album. When the baby is old enough, the intended parents can show these pictures

4.      Go Shopping for a Gift

Children will be more accepting of the fact that the baby is a gift from them to the intended parents. You can use a few tactics to help your kids acknowledge this. For instance, take the children shopping to get a gift for the newborn baby. Tell them that the baby and the present will both be a gift from your children to the intended parents during such an important moment in their lives.

You could let them choose an outfit for the newborn, or perhaps a blanket. The activity pleases your little ones and allows them to be proud of being a source of happiness for others.

5.      Arm Your Children with Knowledge

One reason your kids might be apprehensive about the process of surrogate pregnancy is how their peers and society will see them. Hence, it’s best to shield your children by arming them with education and knowledge.

Talk to them in detail about the reasons to become a surrogate, the goodness in it, and the entire process of surrogate pregnancy. Arm your children with the knowledge they can use to respond to people’s comments and questions.

Final Thoughts

The process of surrogate pregnancy is now an educative subject in many states. For this purpose, many surrogate women have started broaching the subject with their children. After all, your family needs to share the journey of surrogacy, including the children.

When you make this decision, it’s a good practice to discuss the subject, your decision, and the process your children may face. You must involve them in the process because it’s their right to be a part of something that will affect your entire family.

Educating the children with the right information will also make them open-minded and more compassionate and empathetic individuals. For further ideas on discussing this with your children or staring your surrogacy journey, reach out to us.